Moaning during a Blowjob

Camille Crimson is the model and webmaster of The Art of Blowjob. I love the photos she posts on tumblr. They are all really good sensual blowjob photos. I think she is very pretty and sexy.

Tonight she posted a question from a fan who asked why she doesn't moan in her the videos when giving a blowjob.  Her reply was that she didn't moan because she didn't know anyone outside of pornstars who do that and so it feels fake to her.

I replied to the question but unfortunately I am not finding it on her tumblr so that I can link to the question and my reply.

My reply: If it feels fake to you, I can understand not wanting to do it. But I can say that I do moan when giving a blowjob and I am not a pornstar. :) I have found men like the vibrations of the moan and just enjoy the sound of that muffled moan.

We are limited replies on tumblr so that is all I posted but thought I would expound on it a bit. I can understand if it feels fake to her then not moaning during a blowjob because if it feels fake it just feels off then.  So I wouldn't either.  I am not a pornstar as I replied but because of my background as an escort, I did give quite a few blowjobs over the years.  I didn't always moan but I did with some.  I moaned when it really just came over me that....there is times when it is just this delicious cock in my mouth and it is turning me on so I moan. Other times I know the guy enjoys moaning and because I am a pleaser, I moan.  And lastly I moan because the vibrations of the moan does feel good to some men.  I moan at times because it is a combination of those reasons.

I just asked teacup if she moans during blowjobs and she replied she moans too. To anyone reading...do you moan while giving a blowjob?

I don't think moaning while giving a blowjob is something only porn stars do. I think many men/women moan while giving a blowjob.

Dedication to Duties

"The dedication we commit to tasks both related and unrelated to our goals is a testament to our understanding that all we do has an impact on the course our lives take. Many people unconsciously divide their regular agendas into two disparate categories—duties that will help them realize their dreams and duties that must be attended to yet are insignificant. However, every objective, no matter how large or small, has something to teach us about ourselves and the world. When we willingly devote ourselves to the tasks laid out before us, our eyes are opened to the myriad possibilities lying dormant within them. The dedicated and hard-working attitude you exhibit regarding your duties today will help you see the significance of each item on your agenda." - Daily OM Horoscope

Rehash

* I have a new therapist as my previous one left the office I go to so I had to start seeing a new one.  It has been stressful but I do like her and she is open minded. I really worried  about her not being accepting of the poly or some things in my life. I do think she would have a problem with the M/s - just like I thought my last therapist would have too but the poly she is completely fine with. 


* She and I are going to be rehashing some things I am not looking forward to rehashing. I really feel I have dealt with a lot of things but looking at my history I can see how those times in my life are a direct link to my self-esteem and body image issues. So it makes sense to rehash them - just not looking forward to what it will bring up. 


* 10 years ago I closed the escort agency. WOW 10 years? It doesn't seem that long ago really. Last Sunday evening teacup was mentioning she was going to watch the Grammy's and then my odd associate with the Grammy's came up. Probably the last time I watched the Grammy's also...the night of the Grammy's 2002 there was a teaser for the news and it flashed the logo to my escort agency. When I watched the news, it was talking about the business of escort agencies being online. It showed my website with blurred out photos of the girls. It was pretty damn scary and at the same time it freed me of a lot of stress as I hadn't been having fun with running the agency part anymore. So it made my decision to close it pretty simple. 

* I got to chat on the phone with a good friend last Thursday and it was so good to hear voice and chat with her.  She is so happy and I am so thrilled for her. 


* February 1st - Master and I celebrated 9 years together. We had a pretty low key day as I got sick after going out for breakfast.  It really seems like it hasn't been 9 years, but of course I am so happy that I have spent 9 years with an amazing Man.  I am thrilled that after all this time we still walk this path and yes we have struggles still but we still have the foundation.  I love that we have strength in our relationship. 


* My doctor took me off of one of my meds. I actually am down to just a few meds now. Anyway...my one med that my doctor took me off of was for my sciatica. I was okay for 2 weeks being off of it but the last few days I am having problems. But I have to say his reasons for taking me off of them - a symptom it caused - is gone so he was right about it. Just not sure how to live with the pain I am starting to be in and if it gets worse I won't be able to walk like last time. I have a follow up appointment with him so I will discuss it with him. I mean really I would like to not be on it but I also want to be able to walk. 


* Since teacup now has her gift...I can talk about this...Master and I went to a paint your own pottery place to paint teacup - a teacup and saucer for her birthday. It was so much fun! We were really obsessing of course because we wanted it perfect for her but the afternoon was a lot of fun. We really want to go back and make something for ourselves. It really wasn't a bad price either. They just charge for the piece - no studio fees or glazing costs or anything that is all in the price of the piece. It was a fun afternoon date!


* teacup booked her plane ticket to come visit us.  yay! Counting down days!


* I think that is about all that is going on with me right now.

Sex in all Forms

"Sex is also flirting, fingers, kissing, toys, saucy text messages, laying on your lawn with your lover and looking at the stars... sex is a way of being and living... which sex acts you choose to engage in and how your body responds... now that should can be as vast as the population on earth." ~ Ducky Doolittle

The quote is from an interview q&a on Eden Fantasys with Ducky Doolittle.  I love it because that has been my thought on sex too. To me sexual acts can happen from erotic and intimate moments that you don't expect - even without touching sexual bits or having penetration. Just like Ducky Doolittle says from "laying on your lawn with your lover and looking at the stars" - I can see that being sexual.  When I was high school, the first boy I really loved - we laid on a platform of a school playground equipment looking at the stars.  Our bodies close, holding hands, passionate kisses and it did feel like sex to me. It was very intimate and erotic - my body and mind responding.  

The quote is an answer to the question of what is her most frequent question she gets when teaching and it is from straight women asking how to orgasm from penetration. From Ducky Doolittle's answer -  it seems most women don't view having an orgasm another way as "real sex." 

When I lived in Cleveland, I met a young woman who was in her early 20's. She said she was a virgin but in talking with her I realized she wasn't in my terms.  She had oral, anal, fingers, adult toys and other mutual satisfying sexual acts with her boyfriend but just not vaginal so that she would be a  "virgin" on her wedding day.  I asked her if she really felt she was a virgin even though she had done all those sex acts. She said "those aren't sex" - I know the look on my face showed my surprise. I couldn't believe someone was telling me about all these intimate, erotic times where she had mutual pleasure with her partner but they weren't sex? Honestly, I told her that I felt she wasn't a virgin even if she hadn't had vaginal sex. 

After meeting her, I did some internet surfing research to find many young women do this and consider themselves not really having sex because they haven't had vaginal intercourse. They don't view having a cock stuck up their ass as sex. Really? I just don't get that. I don't how that isn't sex. 

I guess I feel from what that young woman told me and the young women I read about were saying that because that is what they wanted to hear and believe. These girls have to convince themselves they are virgins for their wedding night even though - they have done everything else sexual under the sun, moon and stars.  I find that sad. I find it sad they can't just admit they wanted to have sex - so they did and enjoyed it. 

How about Bill Clinton saying he didn't have sex?  I mean that was HUGE scandal to something that was sex. He had sex - a blow job is sex. But I think we are so stuck on how we want others to perceive us that we don't admit the truth.  He couldn't say he had sex because well that would be "bad" that he had an affair.  Those young women couldn't admit they had sex because then they wouldn't be virgins for the wedding night.  Are we too uptight about sex? Are we too concerned with what sex shows about us? I mean do we as a society view sex as a bad thing? I am not sure I have an accurate view on it as I have a blog that talks about sexual things - so maybe I am the wrong person to be asking as I am very open about sex.  

I guess I just view that we kind of get worked up about sex in ways that ultimately lead to unrealistic and unhealthy views of sex.  

Disclosure: EdenFantasys provided me with a gift card in exchange for this post. All opinions are my own, and were not influenced in any way.