Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
Really I don't think there is much difference between BDSM relationships and vanilla in keeping a healthy relationship. Each takes compatibility, communication and just working to keep it going. All those things apply to BDSM as well as vanilla. Master and I have compatibility in our O/p and M/s beliefs and have that as our foundation. As well as being compatible in countless other areas - non-bdsm things as well as bdsm. Vanilla relationship would have different things they are compatible, but as humans we are all different so we each have different areas that we are compatible.
I do think often we put too much emphasis on how we are different from vanilla relationships when I think basics in relationships are just a part of all relationships.