On The Slave Register group on FetLife, there was questions about keeping property in restraints. So thought I would write my answer up as a blog post. Adding some more information to it.
Master and I have been together 10 years. Sometimes it seems like just yesterday I was stepping off the plane to meet him for the first time. When I first visited Master, I stayed for a month. In that month, he kept me restrained, locked up, and isolated. It was because....well, both of us get off on that and because he was training me. He was slowing me down and getting me to focus on him. I lived in Cleveland, Ohio at the time and I was a social butterfly. I had things to do all the time and was just very busy so slowing me down to make me focus on him was exactly what I needed. If I had been brand new to the lifestyle, I am not sure we would have been doing something like this, but really it just depends on the people and what they desire.
My suitcase got locked in the closet and I was stripped naked and cuffed. He would allow access to some items as time went on - such as sexy lingerie so I could dress up for him. Clothes became a privilege
he only issued when we were going to go out. He kept me isolated away
when I was first arrived so I didn't go out often. At bedtime, one ankle cuff was locked to a chain that was locked to the bed. He sometimes left me chained to the bed in the morning when he went to work because again he was trying to get me to slow down. I didn't get much sleep in Ohio, so he was trying to get me to sleep and rest. The first morning he did that I discovered a problem. The chain wasn't long enough to go to the toilet in the bathroom. The night before I had put a large plastic cup next to the bed with water. I took that cup and because I could just reach the sink with my arms - I emptied it and peed in the cup. Master loved that I had to piss in a cup. He almost thought of keeping it that way, but then decided no if I needed to toilet for a bowel movement or throw up - I would need the chain longer so he bought a longer chain.
I cleaned house in the wrist and ankle cuffs - sometimes with a chain between them and sometimes he left the chain off. At times I was locked away when not serving. I have been locked in a cage to sleep and just kept. All these things re-enforced my status within his household. Helped me slow down and focus on him. He became the center of my world and in the type of relationship we wanted and have - M/s and O/p - really that is needed. All those things helped train me to be his slave and property.
Over the years there have been times he has still done those things, but not as long term as that first 30 days. Some things get harder and harder for me to do because of my health issues also. So he has to balance if he locks me heavy cuffs to a chore, that might mean I can't move the rest of the day because of pain.
Being restrained like that does change the way I think and feel though and sometimes just to have those feelings is worth the pain I have on the backside of it. I always feel and know I am
Master's property, but those feelings are heightened with the restraints and locks and such. It also feels more primal because it makes me feel like his object and his
captive. It makes me more pliable,
demure and submissive.
It does have sexual aspects too it. It is something that I fantasized about for so long before Master and then it became my reality with him. But as time went on it really did depend on the situation on if it turned sexual for me. I remember a few times where it just
annoyed me and did nothing for me sexually. Other times it felt just
very utilitarian, but my body still reacted. And yet other times it was totally
sexual even if cleaning or doing mundane tasks.
It can be impractical in general keeping a slave in restraints, but that really is some of the purpose
to me to help figure out how to do this task without them getting in the way - such not getting my
leather cuffs wet (we have a set that just is used for this purpose so
they do get beat up more because of it). But I try hard to not have the
o-ring on them bang a glass while loading the dishwasher because it
could break it. I have to really focus on my movements and what the
things I have on will do with the task at hand. It is difficult to do many tasks and sometimes
hurts with chains, locks, cuffs digging in as I do the task. Although
it does make me focus on the task sometimes it made me feel good inside
being locked up like that and knowing it pleased Master that I do these
tasks like that - other times it annoyed me. It is more impractical
now because I have some health issues and chains and cuffs hurt more now
and doing one thing might have lasting impact for days.
Over all I think having the restraints especially locking ones and
being kept naked - really re-enforced my status in his house. I think it was the perfect thing to do - to train me to focus on him and my service. It made
those internal workings really know I am his slave and property - he
owns me and I have to obey him.