Sex and the City & Spanking

So I have been obsessed with the Sex and the City movie. I was relaying a little section of the movie to Master...

Big and Carrie are looking at a Penthouse and the realtor calls Carrie Big's wife. And she tells the realtor that Big is her boyfriend. And Big says, "Aren't I little old to be your boyfriend." And she told him that she would start calling him her man-friend. He then said that sounds like a dog to which she replied if the shoe fits. In response he spanks her on the ass.

I said to Master can I call you my Man-friend. He said only if you want to be spanked. I said "okay Man-friend"

I am getting spanked later. I got one spank already but more are coming for my dazzling wit.

It is the wit right? Or maybe it is me being a smart-ass? hmm I wonder. :)

"Hair is terribly personal, a tangle of mysterious prejudices"

Recently I read a comment on a blog that said if you tell your slave to get a new hairstyle and she doesn't like it - it will make a stressed and unhappy slave which then in turn will cause discourse in the relationship. And that basically a middle ground needs to be found to have a happy relationship. (I am paraphrasing.)

For me this relationship is about Master's wants. If Master, tells me I am getting my hair cut and I am not happy about it I might get upset but I am here as his property so I am to obey and accept. And if he were to change it to something I felt more comfortable with - well then I probably wouldn't be in this relationship very long because that would make me more unhappy and upset. As it would make me feel like his partner and peer instead of property and slave.

The link I have above is when Master ordered me to get my hair cut with bangs and have it cut shorter then it had been. I was NOT happy about it. I actually was very stressed and anxious about it. I had many nights of crying myself to sleep over a haircut. But of course looking back and even during that time - if Master would have backed down - it would have made me feel more upset.

But it made me think about how upset I was about it at that time. I am actually surprised how little I said about it here on the blog because it really freaked me out. As I said above I cried many nights over it. I didn't want to do it but in my mind there was no other choice as I am Master's property. It was a big change but at this moment I sit here with my hair barely past my chin. And it wasn't hard at all to get it cut. No stress, no thought, no crying, no anxiety - nothing. It was just hair. That was how I felt.

If you have read here for a while, you know Master and I both have head shaving fantasies. For me - the thought of it being in fantasy land had been perfectly nice. I had no problem with it staying there. But I realized though the other day that I could accept it. During a conversation with Master I told him yes of course I would be freaked and upset but I know I wouldn't be as freaked or upset as I would have even just 3 years ago. And when I think about it now it feels...almost peaceful. As strange as that sounds. I know it would take getting used to but I know that eventually it would come to be like many things in my life....that I have freaked out about - it just is how it is and nothing I can do about it. Accept it and the living with it doesn't seem as big of deal.

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7 Facts Meme

Rules:
1. Link to your original tagger and list these rules in your post
2. Share 7 facts about yourself in the post
3. Tag 7 people at the end of your post, leave their names & links to their blogs
4. Let them know they’ve been tagged

1. I read every night before I go to sleep. The other night I was laughing so hard I woke Master up - which he is hard of hearing so that usually doesn't happen. I was laughing so hard that I shook the bed and he told me he would take the book away if I didn't stop laughing. I was reading book 9 of the Stephanie Plum series. It was the part where Lula on her all meat diet was being chased by dogs.

2. If I am wanting a cold drink - I want it over ice...water, diet coke, crystal light or juice. It is a rare occasion that I drink a pop or a drink right out of the bottle/can.

3. I have a food-prep day about once a month. Today was that day for me. I made breakfast burritos, browned and seasoned 2 lbs ground burger (divided into packages also), made 2 packages of burgers (one bourbon peppercorn and mesquite), put marinade in ziplocks with pieces of chicken, cut up and froze veggies, made croutons and browned some Italian sausage (divided into packages to use on pizza, in pasta and to add to baked beans).

4. I worked at a pizza place during high school. I had many firsts because of working there. First real boyfriend, first time for consensual sex (and it was kinky of course), first time having sex in a bathroom stall, first time having sex at my work place, first time having sex outside (the guy that I had sex with worked with me), first time having sex with more then one guy at the same time, first time for having sex with 2 different people in one night....I am sure there are more I am just not remembering. Lots of sexual firsts because of that job.

5. I love jelly beans. But I take the black jelly beans out and eat them on their own. I don't like the liquorice taste of the black ones mixed with the fruity flavors.

6. I didn't really like spankings until Master. He is a drummer and it just made the spankings better for me. To the point of that I can at times orgasm from his spankings.

7. I am a huge Joss Whedon fan but oddly enough I am not that into Dollhouse. The last 2 episodes have made me more interested in it then the previous ones.

Here is another 7 Random Facts I did last year - wanted to do different ones so made sure to look at it first.

And as always I don't tag (don't mind being tagged though always love a meme!) So feel free to play along!

Vulcan Salute

Master just might kick me to the curb...I can't do the do the Vulcan salute. *hangs head in shame*

He said I need to practice as he can't believe he has had me as his for 6 years never knowing I couldn't do it. He said that could be a deal breaker.

(this is all said tongue-in-cheek just in case it didn't come across)

Corrupt by Depeche Mode

Lyrics...

I could corrupt you in a heartbeat
You think you're so special
Think you're so sweet

What are you trying
Don't even tempt me
Soon you'll be crying
And wishing you dreamt me

You'd be calling out my name
When you need someone to blame

I could corrupt you
It would be easy
Watching you suffer
Girl, it would please me

But I wouldn't touch you
With my little finger
I know it would crush you
My memory would linger

You'd be crying out in pain
Begging me to play my games

I could corrupt you
It would be ugly
They could sedate you
But what good would drugs be

But I wouldn't touch you
Put my hands on your hips
It would be too much to
Place my lips on your lips

You'd be calling out my name
Begging me to play my games

SHINY!

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This Door Leads to Excitement...

I get the daily Notes from the Universe...

Today's message: "Here's a hint on figuring out the next step to take on the path of your wildest dreams...danae, it almost never lies behind the doors marked, "WOW," "SEXY," or "GLAMOROUS."

Mwah,
The Universe

ps: Not that you won't make it look wow, sexy, glamorous, danae. You always could wear anything.


I feel often that people get into a D/s or M/s relationship thinking that all things will suddenly be transformed. That now that you have walked through that KINKY SLAVE door cleaning the toilet will suddenly be exciting and a turn on.

Master and I recently had a discussion - about what I can't remember at the moment. I mean I can't remember what started the conversation. But during it I said when I was first here cleaning His toilet made me smile and actually turned me on. I was excited to serve him by cleaning the toilet. Now although I still feel that I am of domestic service by cleaning the toilet and glad I can be of service - it is just cleaning the toilet. I don't get turned on and it is just one of many tasks I perform.

I don't think there is anything wrong with that either. Life has mundane tasks and I am glad I can do some those mundane tasks so he doesn't have too.

Anyway, the Note from the Universe made me think about how people think that those mundane tasks will suddenly be transformed and everything we do is more and exciting just because are doing M/s. And it might feel that way at first but do remember reality will eventually hit.

Call for submissions: Book on Poly in M/s and D/s Relationships

I saw this - this morning on Poly and Kinky over on FetLife.

Call for Submissions:

Power Circuits: Polyamory in D/s and M/s Relationships (working title; this may change)

Raven Kaldera and Christina “slavette” Parker are putting together an anthology of essays on how people handle polyamory when there are consenting unequal power dynamics in the relationship. When you’ve got serious power exchange, many of the “normal” rules of polyamory don’t apply. What do we do instead? How do we handle the situations so that they’re as healthy as possible, and so our poly relationships last instead of exploding? We’re looking for intelligent, articulate articles on how your polyamorous relationships work.

What we want:

1) Essays under 10,000 words, sent as an attached Word or Word Perfect (not WordPad) document to Raven Kaldera at cauldronfarm@hotmail.com, with “Power Circuits” in the title.

2) Stories of how your web of poly power-exchange relationships function. What works well? What doesn’t work? How have things evolved over time?

3) Essays that cover specific topics, such as: Protocol used for group processing. Queer poly and straight poly; poly across the lines of sexual preference. Gender differences in poly D/s and M/s. How dom/mes can learn to take responsibility for the poly dynamic and create harmony among multiple subs and slaves. How submissives can share more than one dominant. How egalitarian lovers fit into our lives. How our households run, if we have M/s households (and how we define those). How they run if they are a mix of people, some D/s and some not. How jealousy, possessiveness, territoriality, and envy are dealt with when people have given up their agency. How people can find more poly folk to add to their power dynamics, and how to interview them. How we set priorities among our lovers. How we incorporate people with whom we have service contracts, but are not sexual and/or romantic. How all these things (and more) differ from the vanilla poly ethic, and how we handle our sexual ethics.

What we don’t want:

Stories about how it all went terribly wrong and you’ll never try poly again because you’re so burned. Stories about how Master abused you, a monogamous person, by forcing you to share him with another slave. Whining. Bitching. Making an essay into a place to publicly trash an ex. We want essays that are actually useful to people who read them, not just venting. If a relationship did end, that’s OK, but make the discussion of the breakup useful to readers.

Deadline for submissions is November 1. There is no pay for submissions – sorry, we don’t know exactly where this book will come out, but it needs to happen anyway. People are waiting for it.

Feel free to clip this and send it to anyone who might be interested!

Deeper....More....

Today Master and I had a discussion on his way to Denver. Last night I responded to a FetLife thread not answering the question but in response a reply by the OP to a friend's comment. It is a topic that I am a little passionate about. It is one of my hot buttons. The topic is about M/s being deeper, that it has more trust involved...and just more of everything then a vanilla relationship. And I disagree with that. I don't think we can judge what another's relationship is just based on if it is M/s or vanilla. It is the people involved and what they put into it that creates the relationship. I have known vanilla couples that act like roommates more then a married couple - don't seem to have any trust and I have seen the same type things in some M/s couples. I think my Mom and Dad to have married at such a young age and made it through all these years have a pretty good level of trust and deep relationship. How can I say their relationship is less deep and has less trust then mine just because I am in a M/s relationship? I can't. Our relationships are different. But every relationship is different. Even every M/s relationship is different. A relationship is what the people in it put into it.

Internal Enslavement on FetLife

Tanos has started a group on FetLife for the discussion of Internal Enslavement. To learn more about Internal Enslavement please check out the IE website.