Saturday, March 16, 2013

30 Days of Kink - Day 17

Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?

You know there are so many misconceptions about kinky people, that I couldn't even list them all if I wanted too, but I will list some.....

* M/s is insane or being a slave is insane
* Being a slave means being a doormat
* If you are slave, you are abused
* slaves don't have needs
* Dominants don't care about slaves needs
* M/s equals being naked all the time and being beaten daily
* BDSM is dangerous
* everyone in BDSM is poly
* all submissves and slave bend and bow to every dominant
* kinky people don't have interests outside kink
*  submissives have low-self esteem and low-self worth
* submissive equals slut

But the bottom line is that really it isn't up to me to clear those up - it is up to me to live my life how I want and others to do the same.

The previous 30 Days of Kink entries.

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

M/s and the Normal Relationship

Some questions I answered from a question to a group on FetLife.

1: Do you ever have any break from your relationship, were you aren't M/s? Like where you are just in a normal relationship for a day?

The foundation of our relationship is M/s and if we didn't interact like that something would be terribly wrong with the relationship. M/s is normal for us as that is how we naturally interact with each other. That doesn't mean I don't have days where sometimes - I just am not feeling well and going and getting that cup of coffee for him doesn't sound that great to me. I get ill, I have bad days, I have days that just for whatever reason trip me up. It also doesn't mean that we don't do things like hold hands in the grocery store, or go out on a date night to the movies, or do yard work and all the other daily stuff that makes up life. It just means the M/s is always there. Even if it isn't overt - it is just part of our life.

2: Do you ever deprive your slave of the things they need, like food or a toilet? I don't mean forever of course, but for like a day?

Master has done some deprivation of things in my life. It is his right to do whatever he wishes. We both have a fantasies and fetishes that revolve around deprivation. But we also run a business and have things going on daily so it just happens when it can happen and not on a daily basis.

3: If something serious happened, like a close family member died or you found out the female was pregnant, would you snap out your roles or deal with it within your roles?

I am not sure I would understand how that would benefit us by not being M/s. It isn't role for us. It is who we are and it functions better because of being M/s. Again it doesn't mean that we don't cope in normal ways. We do the best to deal with grief, loss and major changes to our life - the best we can but again the foundation of our relationship is M/s so changing that would make things very awkward and more difficult on us.

When my Uncle died 2 years ago, it was the hardest period of my life to date. Truthfully, I went through a lot of doubts of who I was, but I never stopped being Master's slave. I questioned our life for a bit because everything in my life looked like gloom and doom because of the grief. I can now look back and know if we had stopped the M/s, it would have taken me even longer to go through those emotions and I would have a lot more difficulties coping with daily life.

4: For those who have children, how do you get around them with your relationship? Do they know or not?

We don't have children. But most relationships I have been involved with or know that have kids....the kids don't know about the M/s or kink. They just knew Mom is Mom and Dad is Dad. They didn't need to know more then that.

Sunday, March 10, 2013

Tricia and Katee

This was just so hot....they are both so sexy in the first place and then together well.....heaven. :)
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