Recently I talked about a podcast I listened to of Vi Johnson's. She said in that podcast that when she is asked the question how she can be a slave when she is so strong - she replies with "most slaves are dominant." I replied that I didn't think most slaves were dominant. Maybe most are....I just think of the people I know and most of the slaves I know don't seem to be more dominant then submissive. It doesn't mean that their aren't more dominant slaves out there - but in my experiences I haven't seen it. Although I admire and find inspiration in many who are dominant. But really I think it not that they are dominant as much as I see those that are called to serve...and that is what I admire...their service. For me slavery is a calling. It is who I am...I need to be owned. I need to serve. I am a slave.
And I have to say I am submissive too. But that doesn't mean that I am not strong, capable, and able to take charge. I am all those words and many more. Because I don't associate strong, able to speak his/her mind, able to make good decisions, capable, self-aware, able to take charge in many different situations, organized, skillful as defining dominant. They are words to describe people...all sorts of people. And I think sometimes we add those to the word dominant but really when I look at the definition of dominant it means to command or control others. It doesn't say organized in the definition. It doesn't say strong. Does it imply it....I suppose it does but it doesn't mean that someone who is submissive can't be described by those words too. Those words could describe many different people - a secretary, a waitress, a doctor, a teacher, a janitor, a politician, a Master, a slave, a boy, a Top..and so on. And that is all they are...just words to describe people...just as dominant and submissive are words to describe people.